MOVE ON
ABSTARCT
Move on is stop
loving, meet new people, pretty much try your hardest to go back to the way you
were before you met this person. The happiness comes after moving on, once
you've realized that you're better off. Once you've received your closure and
no longer feel the need to have them in your life. knowing that you're going to
be ok [Online] (available at: http://ekadip.blogspot.com/2012/09/move-on.html ).
Move on itu punya banyak pengertian. Ada
yang bilang move on adalah ingin melupakan
seseorang yang dicintainya setelah putus cinta. Ada lagi, move on adalah ketika kita putus dengan seseorang dan
pindah ke lain hati. Ada juga yang
beranggapan move on setelah putus cinta adalah mendapatkan kekasih baru.
INTRODUCTION
11) What
"move on" means
22) How
To Move On After A Break Up
33) How
to Get Over Him/Her - By Removing Your Past Together
44) How
To Get Over An Ex - By Re-Establishing
Your Ego
55) What's
the best way to get over a breakup easily
CONCLUSION
Getting over a breakup can be easy but to do it you have
to have the correct information about relationships. You should only begin a
relationship when you truly love the other person and never for a wrong reason
like having a need that's unmet that's bothering you. Only then can you have a
healthy relationship and ever having to get over a breakup will be easy
[Online] (available at: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/lost-love-what-it-means-to-move-on/ ).
We can’t take back what we offered. But
maybe the point is learning not to want to,
because those moments were beautiful. Be brave. Be strong in loving and forgiving. Remember what you loved in that
person who hurt you. Remember that
everybody hurts. And know for a fact you are stronger, wiser, and more compassionate from your experiences.
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Move
on: stop loving, meet new people, pretty much try your hardest to go back to
the way you were before you met this person. The
happiness comes after moving on, once you've realized that you're better off.
once you've received your closure and no
longer feel the need to have them in your life. Knowing that you're going to be
ok. Its actually a ridiculous
term. as if you can just move on like you never had feelings. it will take a
lot of time for this to happen. but once it does you'll no longer feel sad. And
you'll be happy that you're no longer in a one sided relationship. Moving on simply means going on with
your life - your own life, not a life together. Hanging on to a dead
relationship is the opposite of "moving on". It sounds like she/he
wants to break up and you don't; in that case try to get some counseling
together. If it's already too late for that, then she/he is right that
separating from each other is the only way to get over your relationship. It
will hurt but eventually you will be over her - you will have moved on. You can not force people to be with you. It means that if one
person has decided to seperate it must
mean the other has no choice. To
one person it is unfinished to the other it is finished. Moving on is more a one sided issue. Moving on is more for the person who
thinks there still is hope for the partnership. By moving on in means letting go. She/he most likely wants you to
realise "for yourself" there is no hope rather than just telling you
it over. As much as it is hard
for you and will take along time to get over, there is light at the end of the
tunnel. Its just a hard journey trying to get there [Online] (available at: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shift-mind/201106/what-do-we-mean-moving ).
People say “move on” but how can you when the toxic job
is the last on your resume and
their comments (or lack) are a plague to you; or the spouse refuses to finalize the divorce,
or the parent refuses
to understand that his lack of emotional
support and outright favoritism of the sibling has
resulted in pain and suffering
(physical attempts and cheated of inheritance) to you? How not to feel a failure? or inept? How to “deal” with Life?
The term “moving on” can be subject to varying
interpretations. What do we really mean by moving on? It certainly shouldn’t suggest that we can simply erase an
event or relationship that is disagreeable,
but that we shouldn’t remain mired in it either.
How To Move On After A Break Up: Knowing
the psychology behind break ups will make it much easier to move on after a
break up. Before I studied psychology, it would take me months to deal with a
break up and they were months of torture. However, after having studied
psychology and its place in relationships and break ups I found I was able to
move on after a break up within days! You must know the false myths that
society has given us about love and relationships. Knowing these myths is key
in being able to move on after a break up easily. Most people don’t know this
and this is why when people get dumped they suffer intense pain. They suffer
much more pain then they should and find it difficult to move on after a break
up. Instead of thinking of your ex in a positive mind, you'll begin thinking of
your ex in a negative light. This will happen to the point you'll be glad the
relationship ended. The feelings of helplessness and depression you're feeling
now in relation to the break up are learned emotions. Learned emotions can be
unlearnt with the correct knowledge. Doing this will make it much easier for
you to move on after a break up in future [Online] (available at: http://www.wikihow.com/Image:Move-on-Without-Him_Her-Step-11.jpg ).
We
all have trouble getting over someone. Whether it be a bad break up, a friend leaving you for another social group or a break
up you broke off, remember its not
un achievable to feel happy after. Realize they're gone and that they're not coming back, Find someone to confide
in, Surround yourself with friends and family,
Take some extra activities or make a special day for yourself, Be optimistic, Let it out, Confront
them, Cut them off, Meet someone else, and Forgive
them.
How to Get Over Him/Her - By
Removing Your Past Together: Declutter your house: Get rid of the stuff he left
at your place: clothes, toothbrush, pen, etc. Change your bed covers where his
smell still lingers. (Psychological research has proven that we become more
attracted to the opposite sex because of the pheromones they excrete.
Pheromones (humans’ natural scent) are chemical factors secreted or excreted by
a person that triggers sexual behavior). Do the things you were not able to do
when you were still with your ex: You might have wanted to try wakeboarding or
enroll in a dance class but didn't have the time while int he relationship.
Turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Now is the time to take on a new
adventure. Hang out with your friends: They sure know how to comfort you. Go
clubbing or shopping with them. After all, you probably declined most of the
invitations they sent you when you were still in a relationship. In time,
you’ll find yourself smiling again, no longer affected by what happened and
going on to love someone new [Online] (available at: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-Your-Love-Even-Though-You-Broke-It-Off ).
There are
times in life when we know that the only right path is to leave someone we love because the alternative is to remain
forever hurt, agonized, and confused
about the entire relationship. This doesn't mean that as the person initiating the break-up that you feel great
about it. Far from it, often you carry the burden
of guilt for having hurt them, as well as questioning yourself continuously as to whether or not you have made the right
choice. It is likely you have made the
right decision but that never heals an aching heart.
How To Get Over An Ex - By
Re-Establishing Your Ego: Being able to
get over an ex quickly and easily requires the correct knowledge. Most people
aren't aware of the proper techniques and this is why people can take months or
even years to get over an ex. Such suffering is not necessary. In trying to get
over an ex, your ego plays a big part. This is because the fact you have been
dumped bruised your ego quiet a bit. Most people trying to get over an ex don’t
realise that it’s actually this bruised ego that hurts and not the break up
itself. Therefore you can completely get over an ex but still feel hurt because
your self-esteem took a battering by being dumped. Knowing why you have bad
feelings is crucial in being able to get over an ex [Online] (available at: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dating-decisions/201209/how-get-over-ex )
For
those of you who are struggling to get over a past relationship, I have to say that I really sympathize with what you’re
going through. Breakups can be very hard,
especially when you’ve developed a close bond. Luckily, there are some things you can do to help you to move
on. Here are some tips on how to get over your
ex based on what researchers know about attachment. it’s important to minimize the amount of time with your ex. In
particular, try to avoid is doing attachment-related
things together, which is anything where emotions run particularly high or low. You’ve had a crappy day and need to vent?
Don’t call your ex. Something amazing
just happened and you can’t wait to share it with someone? Don’t call your ex! Try to find other people who
can fill that space in your life
instead, and it will really help you to move on emotionally.
What's the best way to get over a
breakup easily: If I had to sum up the best methods to get over a breakup, I
would say: Adopt realistic principals, Recognise that needing someone is
different to actually truly loving someone, and Adopt the mentality that there
isn't any such thing as the "one" or the "soul mate". Quick
recoveries from breakups don't usually happen naturally. There are many factors
that together make a quick recovery from a breakup not possible. Firstly, there
is a need that's unmet, that the other person is looking to fulfil. They might
be feeling lonely and missing warm relationships in life. It could be his
friends ignore him and he needs companionship. All relationships begin with
these type of needs. Then the popular media interferes and brainwashes peoples
minds into making them believe that the answer to all life's problems is a
magical quest of finding the "one". So how do you fix this situation
so as to get over a breakup quickly? You have got to change the way you think
[Online] (available at: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-a-past-relationship-10-steps-to-peacefully-move-on/ )
If you’ve been holding onto an old
relationship, now is the perfect time to let go. Here’s how you can start moving on: Practice releasing regrets,
Work on forgiving yourself, Don’t
think about any time as lost, Remember the bad as well as the good, Reconnect with who you are outside a
relationship, Create separation,
Let yourself feel, Remember the benefits of moving on, Recognize and replace fearful thoughts, and
Embrace impermanence.
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Schwartz, Mel
QUESTIONS:
11) How
To Move On After A Break Up?
22) How
to Get Over Him/Her - By Removing Your Past Together?
33) What's
the best way to get over a breakup easily?
ANSWERS:
11. Knowing the psychology behind break
ups will make it much easier to move on after a break up. Before I studied
psychology, it would take me months to deal with a break up and they were
months of torture. However, after having studied psychology and its place in
relationships and break ups I found I was able to move on after a break up
within days! You must know the false myths that society has given us about love
and relationships. Knowing these myths is key in being able to move on after a
break up easily. Most people don’t know this and this is why when people get
dumped they suffer intense pain. They suffer much more pain then they should
and find it difficult to move on after a break up. Instead of thinking of your
ex in a positive mind, you'll begin thinking of your ex in a negative light.
This will happen to the point you'll be glad the relationship ended. The
feelings of helplessness and depression you're feeling now in relation to the
break up are learned emotions. Learned emotions can be unlearnt with the
correct knowledge. Doing this will make it much easier for you to move on after
a break up in future.
22. Declutter your house: Get rid of the
stuff he left at your place: clothes, toothbrush, pen, etc. Change your bed
covers where his smell still lingers. (Psychological research has proven that
we become more attracted to the opposite sex because of the pheromones they
excrete. Pheromones (humans’ natural scent) are chemical factors secreted or
excreted by a person that triggers sexual behavior). Do the things you were not
able to do when you were still with your ex: You might have wanted to try
wakeboarding or enroll in a dance class but didn't have the time while int he
relationship. Turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Now is the time to take on
a new adventure. Hang out with your friends: They sure know how to comfort you.
Go clubbing or shopping with them. After all, you probably declined most of the
invitations they sent you when you were still in a relationship. In time,
you’ll find yourself smiling again, no longer affected by what happened and
going on to love someone new.
33. If I had to sum up the best methods to get over a breakup, I
would say: Adopt realistic principals, Recognise that needing someone is
different to actually truly loving someone, and Adopt the mentality that there
isn't any such thing as the "one" or the "soul mate". Quick
recoveries from breakups don't usually happen naturally. There are many factors
that together make a quick recovery from a breakup not possible. Firstly, there
is a need that's unmet, that the other person is looking to fulfil. They might
be feeling lonely and missing warm relationships in life. It could be his friends
ignore him and he needs companionship. All relationships begin with these type
of needs. Then the popular media interferes and brainwashes peoples minds into
making them believe that the answer to all life's problems is a magical quest
of finding the "one". So how do you fix this situation so as to get
over a breakup quickly? You have got to change the way you think
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